Jun. 20, 2022
Here are some of the tips that I have for new and old cucks in the lifestyle.
Number one: Communication. Communication. Communication. If you and your partner do not have a solid relationship that revolves around communication, this may not be the best lifestyle choice for you. You both need to be able to talk with each other about everything and anything.
Number two: Honesty. When you and your partner are talking about things, be it in the lifestyle or something you did that day, be honest. Females have a great bullshit detector and if you fail to be honest, then nothing else will come of this.
Number three: Respect. In the early stages of entering the lifestyle, along with the communication and honesty, you also need to respect your partner. They will have questions and concerns. Especially if this is out of left field for them. They may see this as a test you are putting them through to see their devotion to you. They may see this as a way for you to play with someone as well. You need to respect their feelings. Answer their questions and support her feelings. Even if the conversations don't always go the way you want them to go or they may not go anywhere and stop at first, respect her decision to process all of this.
Number four: Listen. Yes, I know you are excited. Yes, I know you are offering her this amazing gift. Yes, you have had all the time in the world to think about this and you are ready to go, but is she? You will not know if you don't actually listen to her. She will have concerns. She may be puzzled why you would offer this. She may think she isn't good enough for you. But, if you take the time and listen, she will let you know where her mind is.
Number five: Respond. Once you have seen things from her perspective, take a moment if needed and respond to her. Really think about why you want this. I have found that this is really the biggest question that they may have. Respond to every question she asks of you.
Number six: Go at the slowest partner's pace. This is very important to follow. Like I said before, you have already thought about this, watched porn involving this, heard every podcast out there, read every article you could find, and you are ready to dive right in. More than likely, she isn't even close to being ready. She may not even be ready to dip a toe in the water. As you communicate, listen to her and read her body language. Most of the time, she will be the one with the slower pace. Just enjoy the ride on this journey. But also remember you may be the one with the slower pace at times. If things get going and you find you are not as ready as you thought you were, talk to her. Let her know.
Number seven: Start simple. Let's say she is ready to dip that toe in the water. She is ready to discuss things with you and maybe roleplay or fantasize with you. Start simple by asking her about old sex partners she has had. What did she like about them sexually? Talk about what her dream guy is. If you are like me, I found out I was 100% not even close to B's dream guy. Then maybe go window shopping. Go out in a public space and have her point out guys that are attractive to her. Do the simple stuff that can be playful and both of you can still stay in your comfort zone.
Number eight: Step it up: If she is ready to take things to the next level, discuss what that looks like for both of you. It may be watching cuck porn together, it may be online flirting, it may be adding additional things like chastity to your relationship, or it could be going out in public and start flirting instead of just watching. No matter what she decides she wants to do, be there to support her.
Number nine: Vetting. You may be put in charge of finding and vetting future play partners. She may do it on her own. Either way it goes, know what you want to ask the bull. Find out his limits and expectations in this relationship. Learn about him in every way that he wants you share information with you. Show him respect.
Number ten: Hard limits. Both of you need to know what you are willing to do and not do in the relationship. There is no one way to do this. But both partners need to share what they want to do and what they are not willing to do.
Number eleven: Don't script it. When you try to dictate how things will go, you are setting it all up for failure. The bull doesn't want to be told what to do. She doesn't want to be told what to do. You will be let down when they aren't following your script. Don't script it. Let it just flow. See where it takes the three of you. You might just be surprised in how it all ends up.
Number twelve: Reconnecting. Once the play date is all said and done, figure out how you and your partner are going to reconnect. She may need time to recover and just want a long shower with or without you. She may need a full body massage. She may just need to cuddle up next to you. She may have you please her with oral. She may let you have PIV sex. Whatever your reconnecting process looks like, make sure you take the time to fully reconnect. After all, you love each other more than anything in this world. You have both just given each other the biggest gift imaginable. Celebrate in your love for each other.